Ima talk abt the way people react... ya i read in a forum post in SGWayOfLife and agrees that in life there are somethings which are beyond our control, for example, natural disasters, ppl bang into me and spills my coffee onto my shirt... ya these are unavoidable(unless ur SuperMan =D but lets get realistic =/)

however, the root of the problem doesnt not start with the person... it actually depends on how u see it and react to it... for the 2 examples i gave, for natural disaster some are human caused... why? pollution la why... lol but humans reacted the right way by rebuilding from the mess and worked out escape routes for the nex impending disaster... same goes for the coffee scenario but im gonna mark out the cases from the damn worst case to the perfectly good case =)

lets name the person whos coffee was spilled Tom and the person who bang into tom will be named Dude xD

ok starting from damn worst:

Tom happen to be a policeman and that day he was so pissed off by wat happened to him earlier(maybe the criminal pissed him off?) and tom pull out his gun, shot at the poor Dude... for this tom was sentenced(lets say the law in SG) to 30 years in jail along with 24 strokes of cane... ya... jus for an act of stupidity and his off to a "life" being in jail and also... 2 dozen of caning jus for pulling a trigger lol...

on to worst case:

Tom is and extremely hot tempered person and he start to whack that person and while whacking, he slander at the poor Dude... slander as in... say his things regarding Dude having scandals or his family... when they end up in the police station, Tom was charged with fighting and slander... the sentence would be like... no jail... but the compensation for beating and slandering Dude would cost about... 500K? or above? after that Tom would be broke for that act of rashness

here comes the normal part:

As an SGian, Tom would scold Dude and ask for compensation... Dude pays up and the whole thing is settled... but if they were ever to meet again... for example, Tom maybe applying for a job in Dude's company and Dude happens to be the CEO... now Tom is good gamed lolx

for the good part:

Tom says no problem and goes on to the gents to wash up... and Dude may feel guilty and on the same day, he buys Tom another same set of clothes to make up for his mistake... Tom may then feel touched and they become best of friends...

finally the perfectly best part:

Tom doesnt care the spill on him and instead ask if Dude was hurt and help him up...
Dude wants to make up for the shirt by buying another set, Tom declines and Dude feels that Tom is a person of great personality and therefore make friends with him... for Tom, he got a new friend and who knows Dude maybe the boss of a huge company and Tom jus got a share of Dude's wealth =)

see how Tom reacted and got his payback? u reap wat u sow... same goes to how u react to everything and anything =) one of the best part of life is to share ur joy with other ppl(even strangers) and u will get ur return of fortunes =D ok then cyaaaaaaaa~ ^^